To be successful in business, you need to understand people.
I collect information and report to my readers. To me, all 1371 facebook friends of my business, are my friends. We have common interests from various walks of life, spanning a few generations.
Some people love to create drama, and others like to complain. Some like to motivate and see the bright side, others hate the world. There are leaders and there are followers.
You have taught me that nobody speaks out against domestic violence. Apparently, the consensus chooses to look the other way. I have had enough. That is just not acceptable. I’ve gone coast to coast spreading the message that it’s not okay; it’s never acceptable to control or hit another. Those that control are cowards and weak. They hack away at our very being, to reduce us to a feeling of uselessness and ugliness, so that they can feel powerful and almighty. It’s sad and it’s wrong.
The only way to address it is by dealing with it directly. For me, I was terrified to leave because I was told my family would be killed in front of me, followed by me. I was brave enough to leave three times but weak enough to return and then get married.
I reach out to find those still in the fog, and want to explain why it’s not ok to be constantly put down, or have to fork over your paycheck, or have your freedom limited.
It’s working. Many people have found me and come forth. It is helping the cause because your stories help to educate me and I get more information collected and can compare notes.
I’m not about women’s rights. In fact, often they are worse. I have heard from men with real horror stories, physical and emotional bashing; I understand and acknowledge it. I speak out to say controlling others is wrong. If they were exposed, they wouldn’t do it. Put the spot light on. Watch them squirm around like a maggot under a magnifying glass. And then, walk away and get your life back.
Boy, are they clever. They know how to push our buttons to make us feel guilty, feel sorry for them, convince us the bad things are our own fault, they are good at this. It’s how they’ve gotten us to stay. It’s brainwashing.
Walk. And don’t look back. Let them shrivel up. They will threaten to hurt their self, claim to be deftly ill, I’ve heard it all. Walk and don’t look back. They will not change.
How many of you have seen people from years ago, and have said, ‘Wow, he hasn’t changed a bit (except maybe a few extra pounds)? Nobody changes their core. Once a controller, always a controller. Don’t believe their empty promises. They are NOT superior to you. We were all born with the same rights and freedoms.
Who is anyone to judge us? What makes you better than me? We are all born naked and helpless. Take John Lennon’s words, ‘there’s nothing you can do that can’t be done.’ The head of a Fortune 500 Corporation, the child without a home, we are all the same under the Italian suit or the tattered tee shirt.
Last October, I pretty much jumped off a cliff. I decided to write more, and launch the OP Music House: a non-profit music venue, recording studio and later add a for-profit coffee house, to put something concrete that we as the abused, can claim as ours. Something LOUD with meaning. I promote peace with the universal language of music. It’s a lot of work and it’s a lot of up-front cost. I’ve learned to get by on less and less to continue this venture, I will not stop.
The upside – I have helped many people because I understand what they went through or are going through. In my opinion, in order to move on, it needs to be dealt with. If it’s just buried, one day you’re gonna blow, and that’s not healthy. I explain why it happens and help them to acknowledge, understand, then dust off and move on.
We have different motives. Some make a living out of ripping people off, taking advantage of people. Most have a regular full time job. Today, many work from home. The face of the world has changed since the recession.
My mission is to help break down the walls of judgment. Naturally, we have different likes and tastes, and there are some evil critters out there.
Be the very best you can be, every day. If you are the type that enjoys when others are sad, you will not be my friend, and I will not support you in any way. Smile, practice good manners and use good judgment, and it will be reciprocated. Bad (unfortunate) things happen to everybody. Some will use it as an opportunity or lesson, while others will complain forever, some will blame others, some will abuse their partner or child. If you always do the right thing, you don’t have to worry about your trail.
There is always something to be thankful for.
The reaction I get from my readers makes me think of an ocean of smiles, hugs and tears of healing, and to be causing so much positive emotion is as close to nirvana as I can comprehend.
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