I am so over jerks. There are some things that I really can’t stand doing in life; these include: stopping for gas, sitting while getting my nails done, and doing laundry. To be honest, I’d rather spend twenty-four hours straight doing each one of these things than spend another waking hour with a man who’s picture should be featured in Webster’s Dictionary next to the definition of the word that starts with an “a” and ends with “hole”. You know what I’m talking about. You know whom I’m talking about.
That guy. We’ve all met him. We’ve all dated him. We all swore up and down that we’d never date one ever again. But we do it again, and again. We put up with the same crap just from a different guy. Why do we do this to ourselves? Do we let the looks and other artificial things about a guy cloud our judgment when it comes to the most obvious thing staring at us in the face? My top four “artificial things”- chemistry/attractiveness, job, manliness, cleanliness don’t mean anything if the guy is just a plain jerk.
Behind every jerk is a woman that allows him to be that way or has allowed him to be that way in the past. That woman could be a mother, a girlfriend, or a wife. But it’s someone. Some woman out in the world puts up his crappy behavior. With that in mind, maybe it’s time to take a stand. If we didn’t put up with it, the jackasses in the world would be forced to change.
I had a good friend tell me recently that years ago, a teacher gave her the advice to marry a not so good-looking guy. They aren’t stuck on themselves, and will treat you better. To me, right now, that makes perfect sense. Sometimes the good-looking ones just can’t be nice. If this is in fact true, it bums me out. I want a guy that is not only good looking, but treats me right too.
I wish guys came with a warning label or letters of recommendation. A relationship is like a job, and we always have an interview before the job begins. However, we hardly ever check references like we would if we were interviewing someone for a job. We often find the jerk-like qualities in a guy after the fact, when it’s already too late and we’re emotionally involved. And so the cycle continues, behind every jerk is a woman who lets him be that way. Will it ever change?