We all have that one friend (maybe even a few friends) that always seems to be dating someone. When you invite them out for a night out in down town they usually bring their new love interest with them or plan on meeting him or her there throughout the course of the night. Although you wish great things for your friend and their romantic conquests you wonder how they are able to very easily breeze from one relationship to the next so rapidly with only a very short recovery period in between love interests. They were just mentioning last week how great Eric was and now they are claiming that Johnny really is the one that they feel they can relate to more.
The above said friend is participating in a new type of relationship pattern that has seemed to evolve over the last twenty years or so at an exponential rate: serial monogamy, also commonly referred to as serial dating. It seems as if relationships are becoming shorter and shorter because of this evolution. There are always more fish in the sea, so why settle? There’s also the more recently popular saying which insinuates that we each get three loves during our life time.
When a relationship is over it seems as if it is getting easier and easier for us to bounce back from the break up and delve right back into the dating pool. Are we really as a society getting that much stronger and more courageous, or are we starting to become more detached from the former ideology that Prince Charming will come and that there will be a happily ever after?
The real issue that surfaces when discussing serial dating doesn’t seem to be the fact that it seems to be becoming more prevalent, but figuring out what the driving force behind it is. In an age and at an age where it is easy to constantly be connected to people through our phones and email it seems that we don’t function quite as well when we are not constantly in communication with someone. Whatever we want to communicate we need to communicate it as soon as possible. Could this co-dependent urge be ironically causing us to have more abbreviated relationships? Why do so many feel that they need to be in constant romantic contact with someone?
Serial dating can be exciting while you have your youth. There are a lot of interesting people to meet. But at this stage in life it should be strongly recommended to communicate with you first before trying to figure out date number two and date number three.
For more on this topic check out how a philosopher views the topic of serial dating and the different ways that women and men view serial monogamy.