Arguments with people are going to happen. What’s most important in an argument is not to be right but to make sure that each party has the chance to get their point across and be heard. Nothing muffles listening abilities more than name calling and blame placing. When you have an argument there are a few basic issues to consider.
First, obviously there is a disagreement because if you agreed, you wouldn’t be fighting. Second, sure one party may be right but sometimes it is more important to work towards a compromise than fight for the title of being right. Emotions run high when we argue with people we care about because we are fighting with members of our own support systems. During moments of disagreement people often will feel betrayed by one another. Fighting should never be one person yelling, screaming, and leaving, only to pretend later that nothing happened. This only prolongs the issue. It’s best to address the issue in a level headed manner and get it resolved.
Rather than being blinded by anger, try to apply the following tips during your next argument.
1.Stay calm. Your blood may be boiling but don’t let it show. Focus on how you want the argument to end.
2.Everyone should sit. Don’t stand over someone it only escalates emotions. Don’t pace around like a lion.
3.Don’t interrupt. Each person should have a chance to speak.
4.Don’t mock the other person. This is not a time to belittle people. Remember, you can’t take back hurt feelings.
5.Try not to curse, name call, or blame. Instead of screaming “you’re a lazy slob!” say what you mean, “when you leave wet towels and socks on the floor, it makes me feel like you don’t appreciate the fact that I clean and do laundry.”
Identify the most important point you want to get across to the other person. De-escalating the situation is always best. You want the argument to be a constructive means to an end. It should not go ten bloody rounds.